The Why

Why I do this. Why ReCT exists. Why I believe something has to change.

I didn’t set out to create a therapy model.
I set out to understand why people feel so alone, even when they’re surrounded by others. Why people get stuck in patterns they don’t want but can’t seem to change. Why love isn’t enough to stop disconnection.

It all started with a book I began writing called Just Pick Me—a project born from years of listening to people’s stories, and from my own deep understanding of what it feels like to be rejected, misunderstood, or left behind.

That book turned into something bigger.
Over more than five years and with the guidance of many mentors, what began as a collection of insights evolved into a full therapeutic model.
One that not only makes sense of the pain we carry but also offers a path forward.

I’ve studied many of the most well-known therapy models. And while each one offers value and a piece of the puzzle, one thing has always frustrated me: the system we’re practicing in doesn’t actually fit the way humans live and relate.

I’ve seen firsthand how the medical model forces therapists to label people with diagnoses, often just to meet insurance requirements. We’re handed checkboxes. We’re asked to reduce complex emotional and relational struggles down to codes that fit a billing structure.

But humans aren’t codes.
They’re not even just individuals.
We are not broken machines.

We are systems; living, relational, emotional systems.
That’s the heart of ReCT.
And that’s the heart of my why.

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Systemic vs. Medical

The medical model sees a person in isolation:

“What’s wrong with you?”

The systemic lens asks:

“What’s happening around you?”
“Who else is part of this pattern?”
“What are you reacting to and what’s reacting to you?”

I don’t believe people are broken.
I don’t believe people are the problem.
I believe people are responding, to pain, to survival, to disconnection, to family legacies they never chose but carry anyway.

And here’s the hard truth:
When someone is seen as the problem, the system often tries to push them out.
But if we can see that the person is not the problem, that the problem is the problem, then something powerful happens:

People stop fighting each other…
And start fighting the problem together.

That’s where healing begins.

A strange thing happens in a system when something shifts.
Even small changes can ripple into big transformation.
But we can’t create change if we keep identifying the person as the issue.

When I sit with someone dealing with addiction, I don’t just ask what substances they use. I ask what their system looks like when they come home. Are they accepted? Are they walking back into the same dynamics that fed the pain in the first place?

This isn’t about blaming others.
It’s about seeing the whole picture.
Because the whole picture is where healing actually happens.

The Vision

My dream is simple:
That one day, the therapy world, and maybe even the insurance world will shift to a relational, systemic lens.
That we’ll stop labeling people as problems…
And start understanding their pain in context.
That we’ll treat people as connected, not just diagnosable.

ReCT is my contribution to that vision.
It’s the model I wish I had earlier in life.
And it’s just the beginning.

If you’ve ever felt like something in you makes sense…
But no one’s ever looked deep enough to see it

You’re not alone.
You’re not broken.
You’re part of a system.

And now…
You’re part of this one.

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